What is the best way to go about resolving a situation with my ex-husband over my son?

Last year, I requested that the state review my ex‘s income to see if my son was eligible for an increase in child support. I had not asked for a review in 9 years. He had a huge increase in income in those 9 yrs. so the state increased his child support. He was furious and since then, has been doing whatever possible to get back at me. He only sees my son about every 3-5 months, and on both visitations he has exercised since then, he has refused to bring my son back home, refused to meet me halfway, refused to allow me to pick him up early, and even refused to take him to the airport (15-20 mintutes away from his house). This meant that I had to drive over 6 hours to pick my son up at 6:00 pm, and he didn’t get back home until 1:00 am both times, and had to get up at 6:00 am to go to school. My ex isn’t concerned with doing this to my son at all. It is all about getting back at me. I spoke to a lawyer, who suggested that I write my ex a certified letter, before taking it to court.
This lawyer actually said that if he were me, he would refuse to allow my ex to pick my son up, unless he agreed to do what was right for my son and either bring him home at a decent hour, or agree to meet me halfway. He wants me to at least try to write a letter first, informing him of exactly what he is doing to our son, and then if my ex refuses to listen to reason, then I could take it to court.

What should I say in this letter, to make it to the point, and not about what I want or what my ex wants, but more about what is in my sons best interest?
Just to point out: My ex has visitation rights every other weekend, every spring break, every summer, every other thanksgiving, and a week at christmas. HE chooses not to exercise those. I have tried to encourage him to exercise more visitations. He makes excuses why he can’t. I have suggested that he call my son more often than 3-4 times a year. He still won’t. I have asked him to stop leaving our son with family members for most of his visitations that he does exercise. He gives me nothing but excuses. I am not the cause of my ex not seeing my son more often. He does that all on his own.
The reason I am trying to resolve this, is because I have had to watch my son, who by the way is 11, cry when I have gotten him up for school, when he has only gotten 5 hours of sleep. That is what is not fair. His “revenge” against me over the child support, is hurting my son. I am more than willing to meet him halfway, but he is refusing out of nothing more than spite. My son has complained numerous times about how my ex treats him, but there isn’t anything that I would be able to call CPS about.

How do i get my ex boyfriend back from another girl?

I am still MADLY in love with my ex boyfriend. Ive even cried over him. And the thing is, i know he still has feelings for me. But the problem is, HE HAS ANOTHER GIRLFRIEND!! rumor goes around that shes a whore. And shes caused him soo much heartache. And hes still with her. hes all on facebook talkin about “I Love you baby forever and always”.and i just ant deal with it any more. please, please help me. i dont want to love him, but i just cant help it. Please…..i just cnt deal with this anymore. :*(

I want my ex back now that she has a new guy. What should I do?

OK so… my ex girlfriend and I had been going out for 2 years and broke up due to fighting, lack of trust, and loss of interest… AFTER we broke up she was very much trying to get me back, and I was not interested. Last month I even told her that there was nothing left [for her] at all.
NOW, she called me up and told me that she has been talking to a new guy that seems really nice and promising, and are now dating exclusively.
After I hear this, I get frazzled inside, and am really thinking of wanting my ex back…
A lot of the issues during our time away from each other have solved themselves, and the others should work themselves out.

She is a total catch, and has no problems replacing any guy… she still wants me back, and now I want her… I am afraid that my love is not genuine… How can I tell if this love is real or fabricated? What do you think? Should I go back out with her?

How do I get my ex girlfriend back…(long story, have a cup of coffee ready for this one)…please help!!!?

Ok people here’s the deal..please be easy on me..I made a HUGE mistake and i know it. I just want my ex back cause I think she’s “the one”, seriously. I think she the girl that god gave me as a life mate. She would have brought so much joy to my life and im having a really hard time dealing with the thought of her not being there anymore. Like i said i made a “HUGE MISTAKE”. Probably wont happen but i gotta try to her her back anyway. Someone please help me. Im not a bad guy, i just screwed up. (please read the whole thing before responding)

I was in a relationship with someone before her for 3 years, we broke up then i met the girl who im now trying to get back with. Unfortunately i met her 2 months after my break up. i was still not entirely over my last relationship at the time. However my ex was really cool and a lot of fun and helped me to forget about my other relationship, so it was nice having her there. I guess u can call her my rebound even though i hate to call her that cause now she means so much more to me. But honestly i didn’t really notice how great she was in the beginning cause my heart was still pre-consumed with my ex. i am the type of guy who can only love one person at a time and i don’t think that’s a bad thing.

The beginning of our relationship was rocky cause i still had feelings for my last girlfriend. Once i was finally got over her, my new relationship with my ex took off. we went to Hawaii for 2 weeks and had a blast. sex 3 times a day, goin out having fun together, doin all the things that i never did before with a girlfriend that i always wanted to. that even continued on after we got back from the trip. it was perfect. She gave me everything that my last girlfriend didnt and everything i always wanted in a girlfriend.

So what’s the problem right?

Everything was good until about 2 years into the relationship. My aunt offered us her house to rent for very cheep and i asked my girlfriend if she wanted to move in with me. at the time it seemed like a good idea cause she lived kinda far and it would be easier for us to see each other. My lease was up on the place i was living at, and i didnt want to live their anymore cause i didnt get along with my landlord. i didnt really think about what i was about to do to, i just thought it would be cool that we didnt have to drive 45 min to see eachother all the time if we live together. things where good between us so y not right? The only problem is, I was splitting my bills with 4 other guys and now i was about to split them with only one other person. NOT THINKING AHEAH was A BIG MISTAKE THAT I WILL NEVER MAKE AGAIN.

So we moved in and long story short, things where great for a few months until about the last 6 months got tuff. she stared a new job where she wasn’t making much money and i just opened a business that wasn’t making money either and we both where living like poor people. it cause a lot of stress in the house. she never lived on her own before. it was her first time paying bills and everything she was making was going to bills and rent and she hated it. I hated that i was not able to take care of her the way a man who lives with his girl should. I had to ask her for money every month cause i couldn’t afford to pay for the both of us. I tried to pay for her in the beginning to make the move easier on her cause i know how overwhelming it is moving out for the first time. Plus the house was furnished with mostly my aunts furniture so it didn’t always really feel like it was our house.

i feel that we just were not ready for that living situation yet and now our whole relationship is over because of it, not because we weren’t right for each other. she had expectations of me and i had them for her and we where not doing it for each other during this time. Finally one day i couldn’t take the fighting and i said that “this isn’t fun anymore” and i think it would be best if we split. at first she was hesitant but then shortly after agreed. she moved out little by little and i remember hating every min of it. i stayed in the house and one of my friends moved in to help cover the rent who also just broke up with his girlfriend.

Mentally speaking, now that shes back to her normal lifestyle living with her parents again, i dont think she would ever want to go back to being with me. The whole situation to her was a train wreck and i cant imagine why anyone would want to take that chance again. i dont blame her, but i truly feel that its not gunna be like that if we plan better.

About a month ago i had a family member diaginost with a serious cancer and he might not make it. This made me think a lot about life cause this guy is only 25 years old and his life is possibly ending. it made me think about how important it is to keep people who love you in your life cause they are all u got in the end. So I texted her after 4 months of not speaking from the break up and told her i had a panic attack once i reali
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The kinda love that would last forever if i gave it back to her. We where so happy before the move in. i know we can be happy living together once we are both established. i just need to make her see that. i tried everything i could without looking like the desperate crazy ex boyfriend. emails, texting, came to her job and sat by her car until she came out to talk to her face to face. I know these are all bad things to do but in the moment i couldn’t control my urges. she told me she doesnt want me to contact her anymore cause its hard for her. i dont know if that a good thing or a bad thing.

I do know coming on to strong will infact kill my chances of getting her back but i dont want her to forget about me. I feel like i should somehow without being to in her face remind her that im still here wanting her. I really have no idea what im doing, i just know that i screwed up badly and i just want her back. im a guy and guys do dumb shit sometimes.
So I texted her after 4 months of not speaking from the break up and told her i had a panic attack once i realized what was happening (meaning he could die and for the first time realizing i made a mistake about letting her go). She didnt respond until 12 that night saying in a text, “that she didnt get it until then and asked if i was ok” ..i texted her back saying i was upset at the time but was ok now and thanks for getting back to me but forget it… 2 min later she called me. i told her she didnt have to call me and she said “u send me a text like that and u dont think im gunna call” ….i thouhgt that was a sign…i was about to walk into a bar with some friends at the time and i stayed outside while my friends went in and i talked to her for about an hour. it was a really nice convo.
we laughed, talked a bit, told each other what was going on in each others lives, it kinda seemed like she still had feelings for me. she even told me that she still loved me and i told her how much i missed her. we hung up saying goodbye and it felt like it was open ended again.

Cool right?…..NOPE

a week later i saw her in a bar and she ignored me. she was with a bunch of people and it almost seemed like she was avoiding me cause she moved to the other side off the bar when i walked in…didnt say hello…it just didnt line up. it was the first time i saw her since she moved out and it was such a weird feeling being in a room with her and not speaking. or just to say hello…it drove me nuts. thats when i started with all the texting and emails, i told her how much i loved her and it was a mistake and bla bla bla…but i think i waited to long and she has convinced herself that im not right for her. I know she really loved me.
i know i will never let thins happen again and right now in my life i am ready to give someone the best parts of me but i dont want to give it to anyone else but her cause shes the reason i am this way and its what she always wanted.

what do i do? please help..

Should I go back to my ex-wife?

She divorced me more than 5 years ago. She said she needed to find herself and eloped to Cancun with a new-found boyfriend, while I was struggling to get out of a heavy debt with my almost bunkrupt company. In the divorce settlement, she kept custody of our two girls and almost all the debt-free assets that we had, namley sub urban land, plus an over-generous alimony. When I was unable to pay such high alimony, she sued me and sent me to jail for a whole month, until I got out with a Constitutional resource. Two years later she says she has realized I am the love of her live and she wants me back, also beacuse – she says – my girls need me badly. In the meantime I have kept a close relationship to my children while dating other women. Unexpectedly, I had a baby-boy with my three-year girlfriend right after breaking up with her. She is mad at me and barely lets me see my son. My exwife is now the lovliest person I can imagine.
This is not a soap opera, but my true present life.

I need some useful tips to get over my ex, or at least I think I want to get over my ex…?

Okay here’s what happened. I met my first love, my first (ex) husband 10 years ago. We have this crazy connection. He’s so much fun, but he’s kind of immature. I met my second love, my current husband, 5 years ago. I’ve always been off and on with my current husband before we got married. Everytime we were “off” I was catching up with my ex. After being married for the second time, for only a year, my husband and I fought a lot and he moved out and said he wanted a divorce. One month passed and I had sex with my ex husband. But I missed my current husband and ended up getting back with him. I miss my ex more than ever but I don’t want to hurt my current husband. I know this sounds crazy, but please help!

I feel a little bad but i’ve been snooping on my boyfriends computer?

I found that he has signed up to a forum about self harming, he used to self harm but stopped a few months into our relationship.
It was hard for him to stop and i did my best to help him.
The main reason that he gets depressed and self harms has always been his ex girlfriend. I don’t know how to describe what she did to him but she was his first girlfriend and she left him feeling worthless. She was never faithful to him, she was hitting him, she lied to him constantly, she was very controlling she called him ugly all the time, she was always putting him down when people were around and she isolated him from his friends and family.
i’ve been with him for 2 years now and he is very insecure and get depressed easily.
He takes fluoxetine for depression and he goes to a counsellor.

Recently his ex has came back into his life, she wanted to get back with him but he was not interested.
She tried to take him to court to get the kids from him but she only got supervised contact which he agreed to no order was made.
the night that was ordered she went to a police station, showed them two scars and claimed he had attacked her with a knife a month earlier, he was held in prison for nearly 2 weeks but then released once he proved she had been thrown out nearly 3 years ago and he did not attack her, besides she only has 2 healed scars and has not even seen a doctor.
While he was in prison she got their children put into foster care and he still has to go through family court to get them home.
It’s all hit him really hard plus he has also found out from one of her old friends that his “daughter” might not actually be his daughter after all.
He self harmed again on new years eve, he tried to hide it from me but i’m not stupid.

He has signed up to this website and posted about his self harm, he also said he is having suicidal thoughts again and feels like drinking weedkiller, i haven’t heard him talking that way for a long time.

he talks really nicely about me in the post and says he doesn’t want to tell me because he doesn’t want to upset me and he feels that i have been through enough by being there for him already.
I don’t want him to know i was on his computer because his ex did stuff like that and i don’t want him to feel he’s going back to anything like that but i really want to be there for him.
I don’t think he’s going to turn to me for help and i don’t know how to tell him i know the full extent of his depression again, he says he only self harmed because he was too drunk and with all this going on he shouldn’t drink alcohol.
His mum told me he was not actually drunk (she doesn’t know he self harmed again).
I don’t actually know who his counsellor is, i only know the gp sent him to one and he goes once every 2 weeks.

I love him a lot and i don’t want to leave him, i don’t think it would be fair to walk away from him because he is going through this.

He isn’t an alcoholic, he doesn’t drink usually and he’s lying about being drunk, he wasn’t drunk at all it’s just an excuse he’s making so i don’t ask too many questions about his cuts.

according to his post online he just doesn’t want me to suffer with him, it’s not so much that he wants attention from others but not me.
we do spend a lot of time together and he usually does turn to me when he needs someone.
I have also noticed he looks for a lot of affection from me now, he wants hugs all the time etc
which he always used to do before when his depression was bad.
also he was in prison for 2 weeks for something that he did not even do, that’s why the case was dropped.
He proved he didn’t do it, apparently the only reason he was charged was because he didn’t get a solicitor at the police station.

he is not a bad person he did nothing wrong and he does not have a criminal record, if he did he’d lose his job but he has gone right back to work.

How do I get my ex-boyfriend back but he has a girlfriend?

So me and my boy-friend was together for really long time (9-10 months) and now we recently broke up. He say he still likes me and I do too. But he gots a new girlfriend but their relationship isn’t working out so well. What should I do? Btw, I’m helping his girlfriend to find out if they will keep going out. So..How should I wait for him or Let him go?

How do you win a husband back after you have cheated on him?

A friend of mine got married in a church wedding after somehow being persuaded by her family. I say this because she had been dating someone else for sometime, but was introduced to a guy which her family considered ideal for her. She got married and after some six months into the marriage, she started seeing her ex-boyfriend secretly. The husband got wind of this and confronted her and she admitted seeing the ex, but has since ‘lost’ the guy so to speak. Is there anything she can do to win him back? Any experiences out there?

Is getting back with EX-Wife a good thing.?

Let’s get to the point, My ex-wife and I started dating when I was 15 and she was 14. We managed to survive together all of high school and college!. We dated for 6yrs. Last yr. of college we engaged and married right out of college. we were married for 1 and half years and one day she came home and said she loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. so we seperated then divorced. 5 months later she married and had a kid by this man she was seeing during our seperation. now 6yrs. has passed and out of the clear blue sky she is starting to call and say that she knows she messed up and that she didn’t really love this man, they are getting divorced now. She says to me that she would like for us to get back together. during this time I haven’t married. However, I am engaged to do so now. It took me 3 yrs. after our marrage for me to let go but now since her calling. my feelings are comming out. I don’t know what to do. She has a kid by him when we should of had ours.should i not look bk

ex-wife left my boyfriend now wants him back?

He is legally separated from his wife of over 10 years. They together have children, but she left him and moved to the other side of the country while he was serving in Iraq.

I have known this guy for almost 20 years since we went to HS together. It was only until he was divorced, that we actually met in person again after all of that time.

His ex-wife is extremely jealous of me now that things aren’t working out with the man that she ran away with.

I have never met her, but she has this opinion that the only reason my boyfriend won’t return to her is because of me.

That is not the case, however, he feels extremely betrayed that he left him like she did and was cheating while he was fighting in Iraq.

She is constantly on his case with him that he must leave our relationship and enter back into theirs (which was apparently miserable), because they are still technically “married” and they have children.

By the way, she ran away with this guy 18 months ago, and my boyfriend was in Iraq for around 15 months. He isn’t sure when the affair happened,.

Even though she wants me out of his life, I do have compassion for her. I know how she must feel, but yet she hates me.

I love my boyfriend and would do anything for him. We have been together shortly after this thing happened between them two. I moved across state to “help” him cope after his loss.

He doesn’t want to get back with her and will never, yet, she is still tugging on him constantly.

Anyone have any ideas of what he should tell her… I don’t want to get involved “talking” to her, because it would just make matter worse.

I feel bad for my boyfriend (and even her too)… there are times though, that he doesn’t want to answer the phone calls from her… she is constantly begging to be rescued from the situation she put herself in and vents her problems to him.

She has basically hung herself (caused herself all of her problems) and wants him to cut the rope…

Is it possible to get back with your ex-husband after six years?

I have been divorced from my ex-husband for six years now. It was totally my fault. Made many mistakes. I love him so much and miss him every day. Although I have not been alone, I am alone inside without him. Even six years later I dream about him at least three times a week and daydream about him touching me again. He has married and had a child with someone else but is going through a divorce from her. I am still in touch with his mother and always have been. She loves me. I just want to find him and reach out to him and hold him again…Please help me on what to do to get him or how to get over him.

How to get my ex-girlfriend back?

Everyone in my school, thinks i used her to become popular. Because i would kiss her a lot. Honestly, i think we moved a bit to fast.On,the day we broke up I made-out with her but I don’t think she wanted to. But we always used to talk about our love for each other, but it just stopped.I really love her. And i want her back. Please no hate comments ,just advice.
like wat should i do cuz she said it was over
should i call her because she’s really mad at me

How do you get your ex boyfriend back after he knows that i kissed another guy?

Besides, my ex has cheated on me before. i think of him and cry myself to sleep
he cheated before i even kissed a guy

How do I invite My ex-Husband Back?

My ex-husband is a drug addict and in a drug induced state became physically abusive and as a result i pressed charges against him and sent him to jail. he gets out in a month, the baby is due in may. his parents are furious at him and his friends are drug addicts. i am six months pregnant with his baby and he and i want him to be apart of his child’s life. I am torn between letting him move back in to be close to the baby but in a seperate room or tell him to move into a shelter. but i want him to be in an environment that encourages his recovery.
it is nice to hear what i was thinking re-enforced. i agree that he should prove himself. and i know the baby comes first. Hormones and emotions get in the way of rational thought when pregnant.
shelter it is if i cannot find a sober-living house

at this point i think i just want to help out of pity not love the man i loved disappeared once the drugs took over.

thank you all

can my husbands ex wife take him back to get more child support based on both our incomes?

my husband and I got married and I was wondering if his ex wife can now go after my income to increase her child support. Would it be better if my husband and I kept our money separate?

my girlfriend went back to her ex boyfriend after 1 year and 6 months what do i do?

weve been together for 1 year and 6months and im tottally blank.. her ex fucked her over alota times,.and he hit her when they argue [sometimes] it gets physical, i never did her wrong, i did my best for her, im 20 shes 17 yeah i know.. maybe thats all i want to share.. i just need to get myself confidence back. any advice?

How do i get my ex boyfriend back when he has a new girlfriend?

My ex boyfriend and me dated for 14mos. things were going really good until he told me he wanted to take a break and that we could be friends with benefits. And now a couple weeks later he has a new girlfriend. so i don’t know what i should do. i mean i love him and i just need a little help as to what to do. should i wait for him or just move on?

How can I get my husband back?

My husband and I had a wonderful marriage for over 16 years. He was always carefree, confident, and loving. He deployed for his job and began an affair with a younger woman. He couldn’t forgive himself and began to isolate himself with her. We separated and he continued to beg to come home. We have been going through this for 3 years. He moved home once and it didn’t work because I couldn’t let it go. The big problem now is he can’t completely separate himself from the other woman. He tells me that they are done but then when I call, I hear her.

He has never been the type to really hang on to someone he wants to let go of. He was able to let go of his ex wife without looking back, but he can’t let go of this girl. He feels an obligation to her because she built her life around him. He doesn’t know why he is like this either because he really wants to move home. He is moving by the end of this month.

How can I get him back to the way he was before this girl?

How do you get your ex-girlfriend back with you from another guy? [Quite long, sorry]?

Here’s the story.
We’ve been in a relationship for a couple of years. She has been such a great impact on my life and I want to be able to do this right and hopefully I’m not too late. I love her and she does acknowledge that what we had was real and amazing and that some part of her is still with me. We’ve gone through many arguments and fights (like any other relationship) and over spring break this year, another guy comes and she starts avoiding me.
I know there’s a thing between them, but she tells me she doesn’t want ‘love.’ She wants to be free, but she spends a lot of time with this guy.
She says there’s things about people she can’t accept and he’s done something that she would not be able to live with for life, but she’s still letting him get closer and he IS planning on winning her.
I’m wondering if this is more or less a rebound relationship and that I’d have a chance back at her and if there is, what should I do?

I’ve been reading a lot of articles and many say to let it go, be there for her and be patient OR to stick with the no contact rule.
They also say NOT to sound desperate, beg for chances, etc. but I was too late and I pushed my emotions onto her. I regret doing this.
I couldn’t speak directly to her so I’d write things down on several pieces of paper and show them to her.
I did expect reactions, but I’m sure I was wrong to expect them from her as she’d do nothing at all.

Would it be better to tell her NOW that I respect her decisions and will be there for her?
That I respect her decisions, but will have to leave for some time?
Or would it be better to just vanish and see what happens?
Any other ideas?

I told her I would wait for her, but it is it better to just say I want to move on and see if she’ll care or maybe not saying anything at all about it?

I’m sure my constant pushing at this has made her want to talk less and less to me, but I’m trying my best to avoid her and let her do as she pleases. The last thing I said to her was that I would leave and I may or may not come back to see how she’s doing. Was this bad to do?

Sorry for all of the questions in one.
Any answers about moving on will be ignored, I will do anything that I can to rebuild this relationship.

I HAVE tried directly talking to her and she seems to just ignore the things I say. She turns her attention away and I dont know if it ‘s just to distract herself.

Well lately I’ve been sort of watching over her through things and I have noticed her changes in youtube favorites. She adds music that is sad and shows feelings of emptiness. I have been avoiding contact with her and she has told me before that she’s happy spending time with other people. There is certainly another side to what she really feels from the music she listens to, right?

I told her upfront that I respected her desires to break up and haven’t been seen by her since.

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I sort of already asked this question but I felt the need to add a bit more to the main question itself since no one has been answering it. Thanks