Fiance posted naked pics of his ex online & I found it?

He is friends with his ex, she lives down the street & they don’t have kids together.

I was using his laptop when an email alert popped up from a forum he’s always on for cars. It said you’ve received a reply to “girlfriend pics”. I hate myself in photos & wanted to see which one he posted. To my total shock it was NOT me but pics of his ex naked.

When someone responded saying she was hot, he posted back that her boobs are fake, she’s botoxed, her hair is dyed & her teeth are capped but she’s good enough to keep around.

I called him on it & he said it was just a guy thing with the car dudes because she had HUGE boobs & that’s what they go for. He says the pics were taken after breakup & for artistic purposes for him to copy a famous painting.

I don’t think about it AT ALL daily but for some reason every time we get in an argument I bring it up. I must not be over it.
NO she is not better looking than me. I’ve met her. She got the boobs removed, she has had 3 kids & is not in shape. He said he wouldn’t have posted pics of ME because he respects me too much & he was just joking with the guys online.
No DAREDEVIL I have never asked this question before. Good to know someone else has had the same F’d up experience though.

How can I get my ex boyfriend back?

He left me 2 months ago stating he wanted back with his daughters mother. Thing is there was not a thing wrong with our relationship and we were very close. He left my house in the morning and phoned me hours later sounding very distressed and that is how he ended it. It devastated me and the break up became so messy we are now no longer talking and he has changed his number. His email is still active though. He told me we cannot talk again.
I know the real reason he left was because his ex was moving his young daughter 500 miles away and had said he would never get to see her again if he was with me. He left his ex originally because they just did not see eye to eye and he hadn’t loved nor liked her for a long time.
I stupibly begged him to come back etc. He could never look me in the eye since ending it. Only the day before he left he was still the most loving man ever and was saying how happy he was with me and our relationship.
The last contact we had was a week ago with him saying we both need to get on with our lives (a letter from him), he has never spoken to my face since leaving other than a few occasions returning my things (he was distressed again). Also, before we got together we were best friends for 3 years then we were together for a year and very happy. We are supposed to be going on an expensive holiday in 8 weeks which he paid for but in my name.
He is the live of my life, do you guys think there is a way I could get him back even though we have said some terribly hurtful things to each other since breaking up? How can I get him back? Should I email him to say thanks for the good memories but I am glad he initiated the break up as that is something I had been thinking off! And that I hope he has a good life and goodbye. Do you guys think that would make him miss me?
Also, he couldn’t even wish me well in life and became horrible. I managed to wish him well even though my heart was crushed.

Husband’s ex making contact after YEARS of none-advice please?

This is our second marriage of 5 years. In our 40′s. My husband was divorced from his ex for 15 years when we met, they have a daughter who is now 28. His ex cheated on him and threw him out when he found out about it. She then married the other guy, moved out of state. All he had of hers was her phone number in case of an emergecy with daughter-which I think is alright-daughter lives out of state also.

Daughter hated me from day one. I give husband good, loving home and treat him like gold. It doesn’t matter. She is a user and only calls daddy when she wants something. Husband hasn’t talked to ex in years, since daughter was a minor. I thought everyone had moved on. She remarried and he had a 7 year relationship with someone else before we even met.
Last month, husband got a phone call on cell out of the blue from the ex (I was standing there) telling him she was going through a nasty divorce and giving details. WTH? He ended call quickly and was just as surprised as I was. I asked why and he said she told him she was moving far away and wanted to let him know. I said she should have told daughter to pass on the info when all was said and done. There was no need to call him and talk about her issues. Oh yeah, she was drunk besides.
Come to find out she has been calling his sister in law also. “For advice”. I’m sure they were loving it as they never liked me. I found out she has emailed my husband on a couple of occasions and on Father’s day she texted him. I don’t know what’s going on but my husband says nothing. If that were true, I told him it should have ended after that first drunken phone call. Period.
His family always liked her in spite of everything she did and doesn’t accept me although I am loving and good to him. I will never understand. Some people are just nasty.

He said she probably just “needed to vent”. I said okay I understand, but why YOU-your family? She should have spoken to her own friends.
When he got the text on Father’s day, I asked who from and he said he didn’t know. A lie. When I said I knew it was ex (from number) he got angry and defensive. I sent him an email (because we weren’t talking) telling him my feelings, how this is wrong. Asked him why he is angry at me (?) for wanting to know why now-why after all these years. Didn’t he think it was strange?

I told him he has some decisions to make and to let me know what he decides. If he wanted a real marriage with me to put an end to these head games with ex. I wouldn’t doubt it if daughter put her up to it to get to me.

My ex and I are on good terms-but only regarding my minor son. We know none of each other’s business. We divorced for a reason. Moved on.
I am not a paranoid , jealous person-but this is wrong. She knows he is married and doesn’t care. I don’t know if she is trying to get him back or just cause trouble. It has been YEARS!
My husband doesn’t owe her anything and it is coming between us as we still haven’t spoken in 2 days. I told him if there was nothing to hide, then why so defensive? Why hasn’t it stopped.

I’d like to know what the reason is-not easy when he won’t talk-which he hardly does anyway about “feelings” stuff.
Do you think there is more going on than I know? Is he just a wuss who feels bad in a way for her so won’t shut it off? Why would he care after what she did to him? Is he getting an ego trip out of it because she wants him back after realizing the grass wasn’t greener? He will not initiate conversation. I said everything I had to in email (it was NOT confrontational-just how hurt I was). What should my next step be? I honestly thought after that first call he would have put an end to it out of respect for me. The fact that this is still an issue makes me question where his devotion lies, what else I don’t know. I should come first. I am a kind, loving person and don’t deserve this.
Wow-Guess I didn’t get my point across right. I just wanted to know why it hasn’t stopped if there was NOTHING going on! I didn’t badger him and go on and on. I am not a nag and we don’t fight! Just wanted to know why he would still rekindle contact if he knew it wwas hurtful to me!

My ex girlfriend got a new boyfriend about a week after we broke up?

Me and her dated for a month but we got very close very fast and she even told me that she loved me. The last week of our relationship she would ignore my texts (long distance relationship) and when she would talk to me she would get mad at everything I did so I broke up with her because I couldn’t stand it anymore. It was about 5 days after I broke up with her and she texted me saying that she wants to hang out with me still because she still loves me and I told I don’t know if i want to. then she never texted me back and its almost been a month since we broke up. A few days after she texted me I seen on facebook that she had a new boyfriend and its a guy who she told me (when we were dating) that they were close and he liked her but she didnt return the feelings. Ever since I seen that I have been feelings sad, down and mad. How can I get over it? Please help!
I am mad because i feel like she was cheating on me with him.
After I seen that on facebook I deleted everything that reminded me of her.

How do you get your ex- girlfriend back, when she has a boyfriend?

I still like my ex girlfriend a lot and i wanna get back together with her. She has a boyfriend but he doesn’t treat her well. I have a feeling she has thought about being with me again. I just dont know how to tell her how i feel.

What can I do when my ex-husband’s gf is a big obstacle in our communication?

I’m divorced from the my son’s father… he cheated, was abusive, and finally he walked out… I’m the one that filed for divorce.

He’s still with the girl he last cheated on me with, and they are having a child (he cheated a little over a year ago) within the next few weeks.

My problem is that my ex-husband‘s girlfriend is a real problem for my ex and I to communicate. I can’t call over at their place if there is something with our son because apparently she said she’d put charges on me for harassment (I’ve never talked to her!!!), etc… And I’ve never contacted him on anything other than our child. So I have to call him at work if there’s something.

The latest problem was that our son was having some health troubles, and the doctor finally gave him a few different meds to help out… after the doctor’s appointment, I went by his work to see him (his shift was over, he was walking to his car) and asked him to come to the pharmacy with us to get the information directly from the pharmacist on how to give the meds (he’s the type who’d say I didn’t tell him something when I did, to say I gave him bad instructions, etc.). Well, his girlfriend apparently threw a fit and then HE started throwing a fit on me after that, telling me I ruined his life, etc.

I’m trying to do some coparenting, even though it’s hard, and even though I have sole custody, I still try to involve him, but all I get is threats from his gf, through him and other people, and false accusations. She’s even started saying that she’s having pregnancy trouble because of stress related to me because I harassed her (I never talked, or emailed her.. I did email my ex once, telling him to stop hitting on me, flirting with me or trying to kiss me, and she saw it and sent it to herself and then claimed I had sent it to her…she’s nuts), that I’m a bad mom, etc.. we live in a small town, so all the lies are kinda hard to swallow, we know the same people…

How in the world can I communicate with my ex, when his girlfriend keeps trying to come between us? I don’t want him back, hey, she wanted him, she can very well keep him, I deserve (and have) a better man than that. I’ve tried talking to him about it, but it doesn’t seem to help…

My son is not even two yet, so he doesn’t understand yet… but still. My son deserves that his parents can communicate together, and I don’t think I should have to put her needs into consideration, SHE didn’t make that child, and she doesn’t want to be his step-mom (won’t watch him if it’s his weekend and there’s an emergency, etc.). I’m about to give up on communicating with my ex, his gf is making it too damn hard… Once, he came over to my office to talk (about our divorce, we were filling out papers, talking about wills, organ donation, etc). She called 45 times in 1.5 hours.

How can I communicate with my ex-husband when it comes to our son when she’s making it impossible? Any ideas? Even HE wants to communicate, and calls me when he gets the chance and she’s nt near… But I don’t feel we should have to hide it. And with all she’s said and done, I don’t want to include her in our conversation, it should strictly be between me and him, it’s our son!

So.. communication tips? ideas?
BTW… she was like this BEFORE she got pregnant. It’s not the hormones, she’s just a witch with a B naturally apparently!
His cell phone is shared with his GF, can’t call him.

HE had hit on me a few times during summer, when he came to pick up the child. It’s not happening anymore (probably because she read the email and gave him hell). I didn’t WANT him to hit on me, and I can’t control what he does, when I was asking him he wouldn’t stop so I emailed him. That’s why.
BTW.. why does it sound Like I haven’t moved on? Because I’ve told him to STOP hitting on me? You’re kidding right? Idiot.

I’ve moved on, which is WHY I wanted him to stop. He would had gladly cheated on her, with me, but I sure as hell didn’t want to! I’ve moved on. Happily. Doesn’t mean I can control what HE says or tries to do.
I’ve called 4 times in 3 months: Child was sick twice and visitation wasn’t a good idea, I was in a car accident and the child was with me and I notified him because he saw my scrapped up car and threw a fit, and the other time was Christmas, because I had our son and we had agreed that he’d talk on the phone with him on x-mas. Apparently, that’s too much calling..
Not giving him all the details: Just if the child is sick and we have the reschedule visitation, or if there’s something major. I can’t even communicate THAT apparently.

If I had just TOLD him how to use the meds, he would of said that I didn’t tell him right, and try to tell me I<m irresponsible — happened before. THAT is why I asked him to come to the pharmacy, so he'd have o excuse — and some meds need to be administered before others and it's not written on them… it's important.

Do you think my ex will ever get back together with me? 10 pts to best answer?

alright, there is to much to tell you on yahoo answers so I will try to explain it my best and keep it short and simple. btw im a sophmore, hes a senior.

we dated..obviously and we had our problems but it wasn’t like major problems but we fought sometiems but it wasn’t like some couples who constalentely fight but he can‘t drive (even know he is 18) so he has to rely on his friends and my parents can be strick so we hardly hung out but it wans’t like some little like thing we had together, like it was serious but yeah anywho he was stressed and wanted a break from EVERYTHING I guess..including me and told me we need a break from eachother for a 1 week (now I understand why) but at the time I was shocked, and hurt and broke up with him the next day but then he talked to me after I broke up with him and we were planning to get backtogether but shit happened (he never called me) and when he did, I guess I was a bitch but then I tried to apolgize the next day and stuff and thhe all sudden didn’t want to get back together, I thought it was because of me because I was a bitch when he called me and it was just to late, I pushed him to far, so yeah.. after that we were kind of akward and I heard he kept texting this girl he liked a lot for like 3 years before me (but she has a boyfirned of 3 years and she doesnt like my ex at all, she treats him bad acctualy) so anyway, then he talked to me sometimes and asked me if I missed him and said he misses me and that its not like we couldnt get back together in the future and like idn. we’ve had this conversation a few times, but his future is like when I get out of highschool and weve kissed and kind of hooked up before, were friends with benefits I guess (not really..that sounds slutty) like because like weve only legit hooked up once, and only kissed a few tiems ( never had sex with him..ever) so anyway, he always hugs me at school and he really cares about me and I can tell and he also talks to me about the girl he liked for three years and how she makes him mad and sad and were good friends but he says he cant be in a realtionship right now, because they ruin everything and fuck everything up. so I know asking you guys if you think I have a chance of geting him back is obvious, but like I want him back now and I care about him soo much..its crazy and would never want him to date me if he doesnt want a realtionship..but I honestly just feel like if thats really the reason.. that he would change his mind if he gave it a chance because our realtionship sucked at hte end..I needed to mature and I have,,even he says and I just want another chance now..I need him back and I dont know how. because I cant make him like me more or w/e because he does.. theirs nothing I can…so I was just wondering what I can to get him back now like to make him acctualy want to be in a realtionship..if its possible.

My ex girlfriend contacted me after 2 months, need advice what to do now?

My ex girlfriend split up with me about 3 months ago. She split up with me after 18 months and it seemed very sudden to me. She used reasons like since her 21st birthday (the week before) she needs to be alone for a while, sort her life out with her career, get her own friends and do stuff spare of the moment. This would have been fair enough but I was never one to stand in her way with any of these things and was willing to help her with any of these. She also said that she thought we were heading to something that wasn’t there anymore but a couple of weeks before she mentioned marriage and moving in together when we were on hol and a couple of days before she said she loved me.

I had a feeling there was another reason why she split up with me suddenly so I checked her e-mails as she gave me her passwords before. I felt terrible for doing this but I needed to know. I found a couple of e-mails to her ex (who cheated on her with her best friend about 2 years before me but they were friends afterwards), the e-mails said miss you, and he’d sent one back staying miss you too, I hate monday mornings after our weekends together. This was 2 weeks after we split. I know they met up just after she said she needed some space for a few days but I don’t know if anything happened or is happening. But to other friends, she said her lifes a mess. She knows nothing about this and me knowing about the e-mails. I do not do this anymore and I will never do it again I hate myself for doing it.

The last 3 months have been hell for me, she was my first serious girlfriend and I love her to pieces, I can’t get her out of my mind and I think of her everyday. People told me to just move on and its not that easy, she does still owe me abit of money for a holiday but I was prepared to cut my losses.

I maintained no contact for 2 months but last week, her gran died. I felt like I needed to contact her because she was very ill when we split up. I just said I heard about your loss and my thoughts are with your family. She thanked me and left it at that. Then a few days later it was my birthday and she sent me a text saying happy birthday x and I just replyed saying thanks. And then she sent a message saying Have I got anything planned for this year? I replyed with a few things like starting a degree and going on a skiing trip and asked the question back to her. She replyed saying her grans funeral next week and got a few job interviews. We sent a couple more texts to each other and I showed her abit of sympathy towards her gran and said well done with the interviews and thats all I heard from her.

When she broke up with me she blocked me on facebook, but I remianed friends with her brothers and sister in law and she remained friends with my brother. Today I noticed that she must have unblocked me because i could she her comments on her brothers wall in the news feed. She is not on my contact list though. One of the comments I saw said shes got a job. I also noticed that her friend who use lived with her when we started going out was in her picture, however these two had a massive bust up when they were living together and they both ended up moving out. But I could see her relationship status and it said single.

I’m pretty confused about the whole situation, nothing makes sense. I don’t know why she contacted me after this time, if it was to make the peace or she how I react to her. I still have strong feelings for her and wish I was still with her but I don’t want to come across like I’m weak or a doormat, but also if she wants to give it another try then I don’t want to act like i’m not interested. I think so far I seemed quite strong in her eyes and i’ve acted like i’ve moved on but i’m far from that. Or maybe I shouldn’t have been so nice to her when she text me. Should I try and get back with her and if so how? If not, how can I move on? She is in my mind everyday.

Thanks, advice will be appreciated.

how do i get over my ex-boyfriend after he cheated on me?

how do i get over my ex
i had my first kiss/makeout with him
first hicky
first time i ever felt “naughty”

and i broke up with him b.c i found out he cheated on me
i cant get over him, i had such good times with him and he made me feel so happy everytime i was around him….im so sad that i lost him…if i could go back i would have let him cheat just to still have him to myself
i dont know how to move on. iv tried to but…my heart is still with him. this other guy really likes me but i dont know if i can get over my ex yet to be with another guy
we’ve been broken up for about….1 week and 3 days
i lost his # so i cant call him either

i was sooo mad when i found out that i deleted everything and i cut up everything he gave me

and he never asked for a 2nd chance with me…..his friend said i was too shy for him
wtf, we only knew each other for about a 1 week

i tried so hard to get over this other guy….to be with him and he just didnt care at all

but the other guy is still their and hes waitin for me….but i cant get over my ex. thats why i cant be with him yet

How do I get my ex to tell his wife to back off a little?

This may be a little long winded and I apologize. My ex has been married for a little while now and he has another child with his wife. But the problem that I am having is with our child. His wife makes her call his wife Mama. When we finally agreed on letting her get her ears pierced his wife took her instead of me. The list goes on. There are a lot of things that I do not like and I am tired of trying to get it through his head. We came to a 50/50 agreement over custody once she was weened to give her equal time with both of us. Now she is starting preschool and he gets her for those two years and I will be the weekend parent. I hate it but when it comes time for Kindergarten it switches back around until she is eighteen.
I’ve tried polite.. should I take out an animated neon billboard instead? I don’t want my daughter hurt so I am trying to do this as stress free for her as possible. In the meantime my heart is breaking in two
The two year deal was worked out with regards to school. He knows how much I wanted her to be able to go to school with her older brother (my son) and the school district that we are in is better.
His wife does those little things like with the ear piercing. When we finally agreed that she would get her ears pierced we made plans for me to take her for a special Mommy/Daughter day of it. Then two days before hand his wife takes her. Or her roller skates. I made sure she had two pairs, one for with me and one for with him. She doesn’t get to use hers at his house because ‘mama’ says she will get hurt. It is the little things she does to undermine me. I don’t expect everyone to understand it.
There was a time i qwent to pick her up and she was in their front yard ALONE, no lock on the gate. I told him that hey, that isn’t acceptable for me and if he needed a lock I would buy it. She absolutely flipped out. I don’t want my girl to feel bad so I don’t say anything in front
of her. If I am hurt so be it. But his wife doesn’t seem to understand that I am her mother and that the rules her father and I set down for our daughter do apply. Sure there are conessions that can be made and there have been. But she takes things way too far sometimes

How do I go about getting money back from my ex?

Can I take my ex husband to smalls claims court after the annulement to get at least half of the expenses. Considering he always promised he would pay me back for everything I bought.

How to get this guy back when he moved on to my ex-bestfriend?

This guy and my ex-bestfriend have gone out 6 times. 3 last year and 2 this year. I kinda liked him all those times and she knew it and he knew it. Well for some reason he started to like me and she found out and we’ve had a bumpy friendship ever since that. Ok so me and him text alot. Recently we’ve been texting every single day (84 days straight to be exact) but last week he said he liked her again and said he couldn’t have 2 girls. Last night was the first day we didn’t text at all and I found out that there going out. Now when me and him talk it’s like baby and ily and sweet stuff like that. So yes I miss it. When they go out me and him don’t talk. Usually the day they break up is the day I start texting him again. How can I get him back? How should I make him jealous?

If you and your ex girlfriend or boyfriend ever got back together…?

If you and your ex boyfriend or girlfriend got back together after you had broken up, how long did it take before you two started talking again?

How to get over your ex boyfriend fast?

I was the one to break up with him. Now, he has a new girlfriend and he’s shoving her in my face. He also asked if I knew of any girls that liked him because he might like them back. I got it in my head that he’s not that into his new girlfriend. Now, I’m thinking that I love him again. Help I need to stop loving this guy!!! I hate to feel love. It’s just not me and it goes against my personal beleif of single being happiness.

Husband’s ex sent cops after me for refering to her as and idiot?

Okay this morning I get a phone call from a police officer in another state. He says that he is investigating a police report made by my husband’s ex wife.
In the report she claims the myself and another person slandered her. Now the who conversation was basically this. The other person posted something about the number of idiots in her life. I posted back did you run into the ex‘s wife? She said yes and she is getting fat. I said maybe she will pop out another kid.
Now we never used her name and both of our FB accounts are restricted so the only way she got on to see it was to go through one of the step kids pages to get to a parents.
The report also claims that she has numerous other pieces of evidence that she has gathered from other websites. The only other place I talk “About” her is a step parent forum devoted to helping each other with custody issues. In it I have stated the issues and asked questions. I have never used anyone’s names and the only reason she knew it was me is because she is following me around the web.
The office basically told me that she was very upset and I am not aloud to talk about her on line. First I don’t just talk about her I talk about issues we have that include her. Second, if I’m not using names and I am anonymous except to some stalking me (her) how can that be a crime? What about the 1st amendment?
For example if she finds this she would call the cops. Is it right that I can not speak about my issues in a private way?
Third, is there anything I can do, she is basically running around the web looking for my email address that has been changed now?
Is this post a crime?
Popfav, My hubby is a retired cop too, he said the same thing you did, I did call he is legit, but some of what he said was weird like when I pressed the issue and said what crime did I commit he said just don’t talk about her, he also said he didn’t want to make it multijuristictional I didn’t know that could even happen with a mistermeaner. I mean all he said was stop. but like right now we are talking about”her” can I get in trouble? And yeah I shouldn’t have refered to her as an idiot but only me and the other person and her could have known who I was talking about and she wouldn’t have know if she were not snooping where she shouldn’t have been.

How to get ex-husband back?

We are newly divorced. About a month now. He is a wonderful person and kind. We never cheated on each other but he said that I never supported him in anything that he did or offered any thing, such as offer to cook, drive, or clean. We still love each other. He still does things for me while he is in France. But I miss him and I want him back. We have a three month old daughter and he shows his love to her and to me, but I am afraid that I have messed things up with him. I admit that he did do everything for me, but I was hospitalized and disabled for a few weeks. But I should have saw the signs. He was tired and lonely. I took him for granted. We have been together for ten years and married for seven. I feel that I have lost him because of my behavior. He is successful so that was not a problem but I feel that I am missing out on a person that truly loved me. I love him too but I had a strange way of showing it. Help!! He keep saying that he may want me back if I can show him that I am the person I was before we got married. I think that he may have moved on. He keeps saying that he is focusing on him right now. He said that he is not ready for another relationship. He keep saying that he is undecided or so. I love him and I pray about it every single day. Someone, anyone, any advice? I want him back, terribly!!!!

How do I get my ex-girlfriend back?

We are trying to be friends but she still wants to cuddle, lay in bed with me, climb on me, and spend all my free time with her. It brings back my feelings for her, and it’s like we never split up. But when I try to kiss or make a move on her, she rejects me. I mentioned it to her and now she acts like we can‘t even be friends. I love this girl and at one time she wanted to get married to me. Is this a sick game?

How can I get my ex-girlfriend back?

My ex and I broke up a little over 3 months ago in September. We were together for 1 yr and 3 months. We have been through a lot in that time though. We technically traveled the world together as she studied in France while I studied in Spain. Our split was mainly because there was a lot of pressure from our relationship because it progressed faster than we had planned and felt like we were very involved in each others lives. I guess you can say to a point where the appreciation and excitement of one another was losing its spark. Also the distance wasn’t helping when we were away from each other during our school semesters. Anyways when we broke up she studied one more semester abroad in Italy and I was here in the U.S. I stopped contact with her during the three months because I didn’t want to push her away by possibly making her feel any guilt from the separation and which I also thought was the best move for me regardless. During the 3 months I have not thought about her that much really and have been going out and enjoying the single life as you may say. Been able to move on from this instead of moping and feeling depressed from it, which I know I should of been doing anyways. So I have been fine and I know she had been fine especially being away from home.

Now she had come back home a couple weeks ago and I have seen her for the first time. I was very very happy to just see her and I had missed her very much. We got together a couple times just to catch up a little bit. One of the last times we had spoke, we kind of just spoke about how our relationship was before and how things may have been the cause of our separation. However I had asked the question of her possibly dating me again sometime in the future and she said maybe but that she wasn’t sure and that she has been happy being single. But our conversation got cut off after that cause we both had places to be at. A few days later I was invited by one of her best friends to her best friends Birthday Party. I had attended with a couple of my friends that they knew and we hung out with them and had a good time for the most part. For me it was the first time I had really felt the feeling again of really missing being her Man/ boyfriend and it was starting to kill me. I didn’t really interact with her too much that night but my friends had more than me. At the end of the night when I said goodbye I told her that she looked great and that it was nice seeing her. And she then informed me that she was wearing the dress that I had bought her before. Then we had a big hug and then an unexpected almost near kiss goodbye. Really wanted too but didn’t think it was right to. But my friends were all saying that they saw something that night. Maybe little indications of interests still there.

The next day I tried seeing if she wanted to hang out later that night. First she wasn’t able to do anything cause she had things to finish up and wasn’t sure if she felt like going out. Then I had mentioned that she should let me take her out once. After that she had said that our conversation that we had before the other day had gotten cutoff and that maybe we should get together and talk about it. So I said sure and then she asked to meet her at like a starbucks. Then before I was on my way she had mentioned that she didn’t want to leave the house and if I wanted to just go over her house instead. So I did. We spoke about what was going on between us and I guess you can say that she has been happy being single and isn’t quite looking to be in a relationship, however we had agreed to “Date” each other though. She admitted that being back home, that it is weird not hanging out with me when she is home or getting back from work and what not. Now she said she was afraid to go through with just dating because she thought that I wouldn’t be able to just date. However I felt like there was more to it than just being worried about me. But I’m unsure. So I guess you can say that we are technically dating now. We have hung out only a couple times now but when we do it feels just like how it used to be before when we were together. And I feel she tries to hold herself back at times but then she can’t at times as well and just goes with it. However we still now kiss each other at times and it seems cool for the most part. But for me I’m starting to feel the feelings that I once had for this girl. I loved her very much and I still do love her. Now I feel stuck in my head and what to think. I want to be back with her but at the same time I have no clue on how she feels because its like mixed signs.

My friends have told me that I am in a good spot and that I shouldn’t be worrying because they feel that she might be having similar feelings as well but she may be afraid from it as well. I just don’t know what to do and how I might be able to go about to possibly getting her back. I need some help, advice, something. If some of y’all can help me that would be great. It’s just tha

What is the best way to get my ex boyfriend back?

Hey says he cares about me, loves me, misses me but he also says at this point we both need to work on making ourselves happy individually. I understand what he is saying, and I’m working on it, but it would still be cool to have some sort of guarantee from him that in the future we can try again…I do love him, and miss him very badly. Does this sound like a case of “He’s Just Not That Into You”? Or do I just move on and keep him in my heart and keep faith that if you love someone set them free…if it’s meant to be they will come back? People close to me try and make me feel better by telling me that he doesn’t deserve me and I will find someone better, but honestly, I’m tired of hearing that, it makes me feel worse. I’ve moved on from seeming pathetic and needy and begging (big mistake on my part), but I still miss him/love him. Right now, he’s not talking to me at all, although I haven’t really tried to call him/email him lately.

I am legally separated but I usually tell gf’s I have an ex-wife. Now I have had a gf for 15 months.?

we are discussing getting married about 1 year from now but I haven’t told her I’m only legally separated. The reason for legal separation was to allow my ex-wife & my 2 kids to get health insurance. Not because I would ever think of going back to my ex-wife. But the health insurance is going to expire soon anyway so there’s going to be no further need for the legal separation status. A full divorce makes more sense.
I believe in California I can convert the legal separation to a full divorce in just a few months.

Should I explain all the legal details to my gf or just handle the divorce details on my own? The problem is also that her English is very poor & I might not be able to explain it well enough. She is extremely jealous and will think something bad, like I’m thinking of going back to my ex or something. Or something else negative, I think. Whereas I see it as a divorce with a different name for pragmatic purposes.

If I should disclose everything how would I do it gently?
I did the legal separation to keep my ex-wife & kids health insurance going. Not to get new insurance. So I was doing it for their benefit not my own. Otherwise, I’d have gotten the full divorce. I see it as a full divorce with a loophole that allows insurance to continue. But, of course, you can’t get remarried. Damned if I do, damned if I don’t.

My gf does know there are still some legal issues with my divorce, but she doesn’t know all the legal details.

Any guys care to comment?