I need some useful tips to get over my ex, or at least I think I want to get over my ex…?

Okay here’s what happened. I met my first love, my first (ex) husband 10 years ago. We have this crazy connection. He’s so much fun, but he’s kind of immature. I met my second love, my current husband, 5 years ago. I’ve always been off and on with my current husband before we got married. Everytime we were “off” I was catching up with my ex. After being married for the second time, for only a year, my husband and I fought a lot and he moved out and said he wanted a divorce. One month passed and I had sex with my ex husband. But I missed my current husband and ended up getting back with him. I miss my ex more than ever but I don’t want to hurt my current husband. I know this sounds crazy, but please help!

I feel a little bad but i’ve been snooping on my boyfriends computer?

I found that he has signed up to a forum about self harming, he used to self harm but stopped a few months into our relationship.
It was hard for him to stop and i did my best to help him.
The main reason that he gets depressed and self harms has always been his ex girlfriend. I don’t know how to describe what she did to him but she was his first girlfriend and she left him feeling worthless. She was never faithful to him, she was hitting him, she lied to him constantly, she was very controlling she called him ugly all the time, she was always putting him down when people were around and she isolated him from his friends and family.
i’ve been with him for 2 years now and he is very insecure and get depressed easily.
He takes fluoxetine for depression and he goes to a counsellor.

Recently his ex has came back into his life, she wanted to get back with him but he was not interested.
She tried to take him to court to get the kids from him but she only got supervised contact which he agreed to no order was made.
the night that was ordered she went to a police station, showed them two scars and claimed he had attacked her with a knife a month earlier, he was held in prison for nearly 2 weeks but then released once he proved she had been thrown out nearly 3 years ago and he did not attack her, besides she only has 2 healed scars and has not even seen a doctor.
While he was in prison she got their children put into foster care and he still has to go through family court to get them home.
It’s all hit him really hard plus he has also found out from one of her old friends that his “daughter” might not actually be his daughter after all.
He self harmed again on new years eve, he tried to hide it from me but i’m not stupid.

He has signed up to this website and posted about his self harm, he also said he is having suicidal thoughts again and feels like drinking weedkiller, i haven’t heard him talking that way for a long time.

he talks really nicely about me in the post and says he doesn’t want to tell me because he doesn’t want to upset me and he feels that i have been through enough by being there for him already.
I don’t want him to know i was on his computer because his ex did stuff like that and i don’t want him to feel he’s going back to anything like that but i really want to be there for him.
I don’t think he’s going to turn to me for help and i don’t know how to tell him i know the full extent of his depression again, he says he only self harmed because he was too drunk and with all this going on he shouldn’t drink alcohol.
His mum told me he was not actually drunk (she doesn’t know he self harmed again).
I don’t actually know who his counsellor is, i only know the gp sent him to one and he goes once every 2 weeks.

I love him a lot and i don’t want to leave him, i don’t think it would be fair to walk away from him because he is going through this.

He isn’t an alcoholic, he doesn’t drink usually and he’s lying about being drunk, he wasn’t drunk at all it’s just an excuse he’s making so i don’t ask too many questions about his cuts.

according to his post online he just doesn’t want me to suffer with him, it’s not so much that he wants attention from others but not me.
we do spend a lot of time together and he usually does turn to me when he needs someone.
I have also noticed he looks for a lot of affection from me now, he wants hugs all the time etc
which he always used to do before when his depression was bad.
also he was in prison for 2 weeks for something that he did not even do, that’s why the case was dropped.
He proved he didn’t do it, apparently the only reason he was charged was because he didn’t get a solicitor at the police station.

he is not a bad person he did nothing wrong and he does not have a criminal record, if he did he’d lose his job but he has gone right back to work.

How do I get my ex-boyfriend back but he has a girlfriend?

So me and my boy-friend was together for really long time (9-10 months) and now we recently broke up. He say he still likes me and I do too. But he gots a new girlfriend but their relationship isn’t working out so well. What should I do? Btw, I’m helping his girlfriend to find out if they will keep going out. So..How should I wait for him or Let him go?

How do you win a husband back after you have cheated on him?

A friend of mine got married in a church wedding after somehow being persuaded by her family. I say this because she had been dating someone else for sometime, but was introduced to a guy which her family considered ideal for her. She got married and after some six months into the marriage, she started seeing her ex-boyfriend secretly. The husband got wind of this and confronted her and she admitted seeing the ex, but has since ‘lost’ the guy so to speak. Is there anything she can do to win him back? Any experiences out there?

Is getting back with EX-Wife a good thing.?

Let’s get to the point, My ex-wife and I started dating when I was 15 and she was 14. We managed to survive together all of high school and college!. We dated for 6yrs. Last yr. of college we engaged and married right out of college. we were married for 1 and half years and one day she came home and said she loved me but wasn’t in love with me anymore. so we seperated then divorced. 5 months later she married and had a kid by this man she was seeing during our seperation. now 6yrs. has passed and out of the clear blue sky she is starting to call and say that she knows she messed up and that she didn’t really love this man, they are getting divorced now. She says to me that she would like for us to get back together. during this time I haven’t married. However, I am engaged to do so now. It took me 3 yrs. after our marrage for me to let go but now since her calling. my feelings are comming out. I don’t know what to do. She has a kid by him when we should of had ours.should i not look bk

ex-wife left my boyfriend now wants him back?

He is legally separated from his wife of over 10 years. They together have children, but she left him and moved to the other side of the country while he was serving in Iraq.

I have known this guy for almost 20 years since we went to HS together. It was only until he was divorced, that we actually met in person again after all of that time.

His ex-wife is extremely jealous of me now that things aren’t working out with the man that she ran away with.

I have never met her, but she has this opinion that the only reason my boyfriend won’t return to her is because of me.

That is not the case, however, he feels extremely betrayed that he left him like she did and was cheating while he was fighting in Iraq.

She is constantly on his case with him that he must leave our relationship and enter back into theirs (which was apparently miserable), because they are still technically “married” and they have children.

By the way, she ran away with this guy 18 months ago, and my boyfriend was in Iraq for around 15 months. He isn’t sure when the affair happened,.

Even though she wants me out of his life, I do have compassion for her. I know how she must feel, but yet she hates me.

I love my boyfriend and would do anything for him. We have been together shortly after this thing happened between them two. I moved across state to “help” him cope after his loss.

He doesn’t want to get back with her and will never, yet, she is still tugging on him constantly.

Anyone have any ideas of what he should tell her… I don’t want to get involved “talking” to her, because it would just make matter worse.

I feel bad for my boyfriend (and even her too)… there are times though, that he doesn’t want to answer the phone calls from her… she is constantly begging to be rescued from the situation she put herself in and vents her problems to him.

She has basically hung herself (caused herself all of her problems) and wants him to cut the rope…

Is it possible to get back with your ex-husband after six years?

I have been divorced from my ex-husband for six years now. It was totally my fault. Made many mistakes. I love him so much and miss him every day. Although I have not been alone, I am alone inside without him. Even six years later I dream about him at least three times a week and daydream about him touching me again. He has married and had a child with someone else but is going through a divorce from her. I am still in touch with his mother and always have been. She loves me. I just want to find him and reach out to him and hold him again…Please help me on what to do to get him or how to get over him.

How to get my ex-girlfriend back?

Everyone in my school, thinks i used her to become popular. Because i would kiss her a lot. Honestly, i think we moved a bit to fast.On,the day we broke up I made-out with her but I don’t think she wanted to. But we always used to talk about our love for each other, but it just stopped.I really love her. And i want her back. Please no hate comments ,just advice.
like wat should i do cuz she said it was over
should i call her because she’s really mad at me

How do you get your ex boyfriend back after he knows that i kissed another guy?

Besides, my ex has cheated on me before. i think of him and cry myself to sleep
he cheated before i even kissed a guy

How do I invite My ex-Husband Back?

My ex-husband is a drug addict and in a drug induced state became physically abusive and as a result i pressed charges against him and sent him to jail. he gets out in a month, the baby is due in may. his parents are furious at him and his friends are drug addicts. i am six months pregnant with his baby and he and i want him to be apart of his child’s life. I am torn between letting him move back in to be close to the baby but in a seperate room or tell him to move into a shelter. but i want him to be in an environment that encourages his recovery.
it is nice to hear what i was thinking re-enforced. i agree that he should prove himself. and i know the baby comes first. Hormones and emotions get in the way of rational thought when pregnant.
shelter it is if i cannot find a sober-living house

at this point i think i just want to help out of pity not love the man i loved disappeared once the drugs took over.

thank you all

can my husbands ex wife take him back to get more child support based on both our incomes?

my husband and I got married and I was wondering if his ex wife can now go after my income to increase her child support. Would it be better if my husband and I kept our money separate?

my girlfriend went back to her ex boyfriend after 1 year and 6 months what do i do?

weve been together for 1 year and 6months and im tottally blank.. her ex fucked her over alota times,.and he hit her when they argue [sometimes] it gets physical, i never did her wrong, i did my best for her, im 20 shes 17 yeah i know.. maybe thats all i want to share.. i just need to get myself confidence back. any advice?

How do i get my ex boyfriend back when he has a new girlfriend?

My ex boyfriend and me dated for 14mos. things were going really good until he told me he wanted to take a break and that we could be friends with benefits. And now a couple weeks later he has a new girlfriend. so i don’t know what i should do. i mean i love him and i just need a little help as to what to do. should i wait for him or just move on?

How can I get my husband back?

My husband and I had a wonderful marriage for over 16 years. He was always carefree, confident, and loving. He deployed for his job and began an affair with a younger woman. He couldn’t forgive himself and began to isolate himself with her. We separated and he continued to beg to come home. We have been going through this for 3 years. He moved home once and it didn’t work because I couldn’t let it go. The big problem now is he can’t completely separate himself from the other woman. He tells me that they are done but then when I call, I hear her.

He has never been the type to really hang on to someone he wants to let go of. He was able to let go of his ex wife without looking back, but he can’t let go of this girl. He feels an obligation to her because she built her life around him. He doesn’t know why he is like this either because he really wants to move home. He is moving by the end of this month.

How can I get him back to the way he was before this girl?

How do you get your ex-girlfriend back with you from another guy? [Quite long, sorry]?

Here’s the story.
We’ve been in a relationship for a couple of years. She has been such a great impact on my life and I want to be able to do this right and hopefully I’m not too late. I love her and she does acknowledge that what we had was real and amazing and that some part of her is still with me. We’ve gone through many arguments and fights (like any other relationship) and over spring break this year, another guy comes and she starts avoiding me.
I know there’s a thing between them, but she tells me she doesn’t want ‘love.’ She wants to be free, but she spends a lot of time with this guy.
She says there’s things about people she can’t accept and he’s done something that she would not be able to live with for life, but she’s still letting him get closer and he IS planning on winning her.
I’m wondering if this is more or less a rebound relationship and that I’d have a chance back at her and if there is, what should I do?

I’ve been reading a lot of articles and many say to let it go, be there for her and be patient OR to stick with the no contact rule.
They also say NOT to sound desperate, beg for chances, etc. but I was too late and I pushed my emotions onto her. I regret doing this.
I couldn’t speak directly to her so I’d write things down on several pieces of paper and show them to her.
I did expect reactions, but I’m sure I was wrong to expect them from her as she’d do nothing at all.

Would it be better to tell her NOW that I respect her decisions and will be there for her?
That I respect her decisions, but will have to leave for some time?
Or would it be better to just vanish and see what happens?
Any other ideas?

I told her I would wait for her, but it is it better to just say I want to move on and see if she’ll care or maybe not saying anything at all about it?

I’m sure my constant pushing at this has made her want to talk less and less to me, but I’m trying my best to avoid her and let her do as she pleases. The last thing I said to her was that I would leave and I may or may not come back to see how she’s doing. Was this bad to do?

Sorry for all of the questions in one.
Any answers about moving on will be ignored, I will do anything that I can to rebuild this relationship.

I HAVE tried directly talking to her and she seems to just ignore the things I say. She turns her attention away and I dont know if it ‘s just to distract herself.

Well lately I’ve been sort of watching over her through things and I have noticed her changes in youtube favorites. She adds music that is sad and shows feelings of emptiness. I have been avoiding contact with her and she has told me before that she’s happy spending time with other people. There is certainly another side to what she really feels from the music she listens to, right?

I told her upfront that I respected her desires to break up and haven’t been seen by her since.

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I sort of already asked this question but I felt the need to add a bit more to the main question itself since no one has been answering it. Thanks

Can a mom feel when her son is heartbroken? (mom’s intuition)?

My bf broke up w. me about a month ago bc he said it “wasn’t the right time, wasn’t ready for a relationship”. He was too focused on work, his car, and I think was just not in the “relationship” frame of mind. In the beginning he was very secure/confident he wanted a relationship w. me and I know he he didn’t just “like” me; he really cared. I was “everything he wants in a girl” (what he said), his family/friends loved us together, we had good times, and i was the polar opposite of all his exes (they were high maintinence, dramatic, clingy, and way younger than him; i‘m independent, low key, easygoing, and his age of 23). I think my easygoing attitude allowed him to be more himself. He became more responsible/focused on work and fr. there, all he didw as work. All his free time was with video games, fixing his car, and spending time w. friends, unwinding after work (on the couch w. a beer lol). I was good to him and was never a doormat…and eventually his focus was not on a relationship but on himself. We ended on “good terms” but i haven’t spoken to him since the break up. It’s been “an experience” for me bc my last “relationship” was way back in high school; i don’t commit easily and i saw potential in him. I know he feels horrible; he says he still cares but isn’t ready for a relationship and the time isn’t right…and that’s what he’s been tellin his friends/family too. Even during the break up, he was still affectionate…

I‘ve also come to find out everything he told me (abt the breakup) is what he’s been telling his friends and family, that “it wasn’t the right time right now, that’s it..” And he apparently told his family he just doesn’t want a girlfriend right now but he still cares about me. My friend went to that family party and apparently his family was asking about me and they were givin him a hard time about breaking up w. me. (she said he looked like he felt bad). I made a mistake of goin on his fb and realized he did change…compared to when i first met him and now, he’s a different person. Before me, he was irresponsible, didn’t take work seriously, wanted to “fix” his car but never got around to it. Now, all he does is work and is OBSESSED and loves fixing his car up – he’s very commited to that. He also still goes out w. his group of friends (guy friends and their girl friends) and he’s dressed up now. Before he would just wear a nice shirt and now, he goes out wearing a collared shirt. On his status a while back he said he “wants the bad feeling to go away….” and he also mentioned how much he loves his mom. When i was with him, he was a good son but was never “close” to his mom. My co-worker (who’s a mom) says she’s guessing he told his mom about me (?) She said every mom knows when her son is happy/sad and she knows for a fact that his mom knew he was “heartbroken” and probably talked to him about what’s been going on (which to me, seems crazy; then again, i‘ve never heard him proclaimed his love for his mom). I noticed he also seems to be VERY into his family (not like he wasn’t before but now, it’s like he owns up to it). My co-worker predicts (we made a bet) that my ex will come back when all the issues in his life would be solved (bc she said “men are practical”; women are “emotional”). I don’t believe her & am not expecting anything at all but she said to not fight w. mom’s intuiton….
THOUGHTS?
After the breakup, he sent me a long txt apologizing and saying how much he still cares but isn’t the right time. I never responded back. His roomate recently told me, some of my items were still at his place but he “wasn’t sure to text” me…co-worker thinks its bc HE thinks i “hate” him…

How do I get over being jealous of my boyfriend’s relationship with his ex-wife?

PLEASE HELP!! Here is my situation: I am a 21 year old woman and my boyfriend is 33 years old. He was married to a woman for 7 years and they have a 3 year old son. They divorced and we have been together for 9 months. My boyfriend is an awesome father to his child, probably the best example of a father I have seen my entire life. We live 800 miles away from his ex-wife and child and we often make trips so that he can see his son, and his son comes to visit often. I love that he is such a great father. My problem is that he talks to his ex-wife every day. Many times, their conversation is about their son, but sometimes I feel like his ex-wife still has feelings for my boyfriend and this bothers me so very much. I think it’s wonderful that him and the ex are keeping their relationship as amicable as possible for the sake of their young son, but I just can’t help feeling a little jealous. We went to visit his son about 6 months ago, and his ex-wife begged him to get back together with her. But since then my boyfriend tells me that he doesn’t feel that she has feelings for him anymore. She is a really great woman, a wonderful mother. My boyfriend and I have a great relationship, we are very much in love with each other and we have plans to get married and have children of our own someday. I trust him completely, I have no reason not to. I’m just afraid that he will change his mind one day and decide he wants to leave me for her, and I am overcome with this ridiculous jealousy when he talks to her everyday. Am I going insane? I’m just trying to get over this and be as mature about this situation as much as possible. I realize she will be in his life until their son is grown up. Any advice on beating the green-eyed monster? Any advice is appreciated… Thanks!

What advice can i give to my bestfriend if his ex-husband want to get back in her arms again?

I need an answers right now im in the dilemma

Is it a good idea to get back with your ex boyfriend/girlfriend?

Just curious but I do not intend to get back with my ex boyfriend. I just want to know from other people’s point of view.

how do i get my ex boyfriend back with me? and how do i know if he still likes me?

How do i get him back?
i want my ex back we broke up in nov? & we had been a couple since may 27th 2008. he has a girlfriend now. but im really jealous about it. & also she was one of my friends but now i cant trust her. and they kiss and everything in front of me i really do love him and want him back how can i?