by T Dub Jackson, author of  The Magic Of Making Up System

You smell the smoke, hear the crackle of a flame and

start to swoon from the searing heat.

and…

You suspect there’s about to be a raging fire.

But the fire and carnage you fear won’t be from

any material possessions lost, but from something much

more precious, a once loving relationship going up in flames.

No matter what issue set your fire ablaze, many

of us don’t know where or how to begin applying

the water to put the fire out.

In fact…

Unlike a real fire where a fireman first looks to

find, attack and cool the source of the fire (if possible).

Many times attacking the center of the heat is the WRONG approach to take

when trying to extinguish our relationship problems and fires.

For example, let’s imagine that since this ‘recession’

your relationship has flamed up some worrisome financial fires.

Not too hard to imagine these days?

These may start as little brush fires, small issues and arguments

over how and where money is being spent…or not spent.

Then, maybe because of the heat and pressure of these

financial fires one partner starts ‘escaping’ more than

is healthy for the relationship.

He escapes into TV, Video Games, Alcohol, Cyber

Porn…or worse?

Now…what do we have?

We’ve got two fires smoldering away and soon to be a third because

the other partner is starting to feel lonely and isolated.

Can you almost feel the pressure?

Feel it coming to a boil?

Now with three fires off to a crackling start there’s

even greater risk of fire and damage spreading to other areas.

So? Just which fire do we put out first?

Our financial fire? Our financial blaze seems pretty tough to

extinguish right now and not likely to die soon.

So maybe we should start with the escapism? That seems

like an easy fire to put out…IF you’re not the one escaping!

…and try telling someone that’s feeling lonely and isolated

that “they should just snap out of it” is like throwing fuel

into the fire.

So where do we begin when we don’t see any

good place to start? And we finally realize that

trying to stomp out all our blazes at once actually spreads

the fire?…FASTER!

The answer is…

Unlike fighting a REAL fire, we start where there

IS NO FIRE.

Yes, start where there is absolutely no smoke, no heat

and no flame.

What we need to do is stop focusing on the problem(s)

and focus on where we still have passion…even if

it’s just a little.

Find even the tiniest things you both enjoy doing

together, ACTIVELY put your problems aside and begin to

rebuild the passion between you.

And do you know what invariably happens? Often once you’ve

rekindled the passion between you…the PROBLEMS will often work

themselves out.

The fires extinguish themselves.

Here’s how it may play out using our example;

Tom and Cindy both love cooking together.

They both actively decide to let their problems

go and NOT worry about them for awhile, but to start

by cooking dinner together and EATING together at

the dinner table…EVERY night.

Often because they’ve had such a great time cooking

and eating together…they play some cards or monopoly

afterwards and share some laughs and have a little fun.

Now, because Cindy isn’t feeling so isolated because

Tom’s always watching TV or surfing the web…

That little bit of fun turns into love making a little

more often.

Which in part…leads to…

Tom starting to feel better, finds new confidence,

and as his confidence builds… Tom gets more assertive

about finding work.

Soon…

Tom lands what maybe not the best job in the world, but one

that relieves a lot of the financial pressure until he

can find his perfect fit.

And before your very eyes…

Where Tom and Cindy’s relationship was about to burst

into flames…

Now, they are rising from the rubble with

a stronger and more fire proof marriage than ever before.

The moral of the story is that with enough PASSION

couples can overcome most any problem including affairs, drug use,

even death in the family.

But when there is very little passion even the tiniest

problems…become big, out of control, blazing fires.

Now if you’re reading this, but feel that an out

of control fire has already ‘gutted’ and put an end to your

relationship. You may find it comforting to know that there

may be a second chance for you?

I’ve made some amazing new breakthroughs in the human

love, bonding and REBONDING process.

Many of these breakthroughs are just as counterintuitive

as the technique I’ve just handed you here.

I’ve made a special video with you in mind where I share

one of my counterintuitive rebonding techniques.

You’re invited to watch here:

HOW TO GET YOUR EX BACK VIDEO

While I’m a little bumbly and no Brad Pitt on camera…

…the video has been watched over 893,000 times (rated 4 1/2 stars) and

it’s rare for a day to go by where I don’t receive a really heart

warming note from someone that has put their relationship back

together after going through hell and fearing they’d never

find their way back.

Hope it helps you too:-)

T Dub Jackson

MagicOfMakingUp.com